Weiying’s Blog

Had been a very long time doesn’t update my blog…no time,no line…miss all my friends. less chance to get myself update now. Work-sleep-eat-work…had to earn more $$ to get what I want….

It seem that I had my own family now…but…am I suppose to be happy? We had been together coming 2 years soon…always stick together..never been apart more than 3 days. but still work–eat–sleep–movies–work…life is so…

Don’t know what else to say about my living now. We had a home sweet home, our pets, flowers+grass around the compound, privacy where no one else but only both of us…feel like we are living in our own kingdom which only us…

Sometimes do feel boring, feel like i`m getting old…no more night outings, no more beer, no more trips….which way I should go? enjoy the laughters or enjoy the happiness? Am I at a different age path now? no more teenage spirits? or between teenage turning to adults or motherly mode? Should I be happy?

Moddy~

What is your reaction when the one you love ask you to wait him for 10 years? What may happen between 10 years? Are you sure after 10 years I’m still around or you can promise me the feeling is still being the same?

Kim promises Jane that he will marry her after 10 years from now. Kim asks Jane whether she will wait her for 10 years. In this coming 10 years, he will accompany her all the way through. But just without a paper of authorization of being husband and wife.

Last night, Jane come and cries at me. She asks me what she can do. Do her really have to wait him 10 years? Jane told me about her plan… Her plan is to have her own family, a healthy family as her parents. She hopes to get marry after graduate in 5 years time as the latest. She talks to Kim about this matter, but Kim answer was that he does not have financial stability yet to have a happy family. That’s why he hopes Jane may give him time to earn better finance for better future.

I understand what Jane is worry about. Jane is from a happy family. Her parents get married in their 20s and Jane was born when her mom was only 21years old. Therefore, Jane and her parent’s relations are just like friends. Maybe because of the age gaps is not big, they can share many experiences and happiness together just like what we did with friends. I met Jane’s parents; they really look young and talk with us without any gaps like talking to aunty or uncle. They are very friendly, even play those secondary students game with us.

Kim is a caring guy but I wonder why he doesn’t want to marry Jane as said. He rather staying together and live together but not wanted to sign just a paper of authorization. Maybe for a guy it seems like just a paperless meaning, but it did give an important status for a girl.

Jane asks Kim that how if before the 10years he mean, she got pregnant? Will she still need to wait for 10 years? Would he want their children are 10 years old only they will get married? Kim said if so happens… they will then marry. But he may not give her a happy family as promise because of financial is not enough to raise a child yet. But Jane doesn’t want to give birth only when she is 30s…it is not healthy for her baby and dangerous for her too…

Is it everything needs money? Without money we couldn’t live? I wonder how our parents or grandparents survive with 5-10 children. Kim is working and coming from an average family living, he may have fully support from his parents, what else he needs to worry about finance? Jane wanted was just a promise and makes their dreams realize together. They can work and save money from now, before 10 years they can have cars and houses. What to worry about now?

Besides that, Jane’s ex-boyfriend, Boy had also asked her to back to his side. He doesn’t know that Jane already be with Kim. In the sms, Boy told Jane that he will gave her the happy family as Jane always dream for. Boy is a successful business man who cans really afford a family now. He told Jane that he will gave Jane whatever she dreams. He promise to achieve every of Jane’s wants. Jane really touches by all his words. But sad that he was not the one Jane love. What happen with him is already pass. How does Jane need to reply Boy?

For all the readers, what would be your feeling when yours love one asks to wait him/her 10 years? While the one you love before willing to marry you and achieve what you dream for? Have you think of this problem?

Here is a story about Sissy and Jojo….

It happens in yr 2003, Sept - There is a couple names Sissy and Jojo. Sissy is a student from one of the largest University in M’sia while Jojo is just a sales person whose income was only RM 1500++ per-month. There have their own living place but meet every weekend. Although they have not much money to spend for the expenses but it is enough for them to enjoy the fun of being together. They can afford for nearly trips and movies during weekend.

All this while, everything is going smoothly…but the day comes when Sissy graduated. She plan for everything with Jojo. Sissy plan for marriage next 2years and maybe engage overseas honeymoon but Jojo seem not interested. The reason given was no money, too early for marriage, and don’t want to go overseas and etc…Sissy already 23yrs old while Jojo- 26yrs old. 2 yrs later was not anymore young-age for both of them. Now was the suitable time for both to create their own family and home.

Because of Jojo’s income, Sissy’s parents always not agreed with their relations. They keep asking Sissy break the relations with Jojo and wait for another better fate. They rather sent Sissy overseas for further studies or get a better jobs offer there. Of cause Sissy wasn’t wanted to separate with Jojo but she couldn’t ignore her parents order. She keeps herself in a room for 2 months without discussing the problem with Jojo. Jojo was worried about Sissy’s condition and decide to drive to Sissy’s hometown in Png. When reach her house front, Sissy’s parents do not allowed Jojo to meet Sissy. He was very sad and leave without any notes from Sissy.

Jojo tried very had to called Sissy up but couldn’t get through, from Sissy’s friends, Jojo got know about Sissy is moving to U.K coming weekend. Jojo keep calling and calling for her but still couldn’t get it. After 2 years, Sept 2005 – Jojo received a letter sent from

U.K.

It is written by Sissy about her living in U.K and her studies there. She explains everything about why he can’t get contact of her. She was grunted by her parents. After moving to U.K, her parents keep controlling her new known friends and letter replies.

This letter was sent secretly back to M’sia without her parents notice. She is having a hard time there and she decides to move back to M’sia alone without parent’s notice. The purpose of sending Jojo this letter is to ask whether he can take care of her living as she does not have any relatives or living place in M’sia.

She loves Jojo very much and she hope that Jojo doesn’t change his mind and still remember the happiest time when they being together.

Ques: What do you all think of Jojo’s reply? Yes and reasons, No and reasons.

      爱只有一个字，而喜欢却是两个字，如此看来爱比喜欢更精简更明确，爱的世界里容不下任何的杂质，它是没有其他字眼可代替的一种情感。

　　喜欢一个人的时候只是一种心情，认为与对方在一起会感到特别开心，请注意，这只是一种直觉，包括你所认为的对他（她）有一种好感也只是一种直觉，这种直觉没有触及到你的内心深处，完全只是一种表面印象。而爱不同，爱是一种感觉，一种发自你内心的情意萌动，这时候对方的形象全在你的头脑与意识深处，这种爱是靠五官来感应，靠七情六欲来激发的。

        喜欢可以停止，没有时间概念，当你没和对方在一起时，也不会感到失落与痛苦，就是要断就断，没有挽留与留恋的必要；而爱没有休止，爱上一个人可以一辈子都爱他（她），这种爱可以永生永世地保留与延缓。

        喜欢一个人不必在他（她）面前害羞拘谨，两人在一起时可以无拘无束，畅开胸怀谈论说笑，这是一种非常自然的表现；爱一个人却是特别坦然，你的爱里没有一丝杂念，这种爱是纯净的，伟大的，高尚的，光明磊落的。

        喜欢一个人，有时候盼望和他（她）见面，和他（她）在一起，这是一种非常自然又正常的心理渴望；而爱一个人有时候却怕和他（她）在一起，怕看到对方，常常有这样一种人，渴望见到心爱的人却又怕看到对方的身影，特别是不敢触及对方的眼睛，在自己所爱人的面前，常常心惊胆跳，面红赤耳。如果你在谁的面前感到自己特别害羞，特别心跳时，那可能就说明你已经爱上了对方。

        喜欢一个人总是为他（她）笑，因为你希望对方开心快乐，而你们在一起也确实无拘无束，对方的喜怒哀乐还无法真正感染到你；只有爱一个人你才可以为他（她）哭，因为这时，你爱的人已经走进了你的心里，你的思想与行为随时都在被你所爱的人牵引着，你可以为对方的痛而痛，为对方的忧而忧，为对方的苦而苦，你还可以为了对方对你的一些小小的情绪变化而哭，可以因为思念之苦而哭，也可以为你们的分手而哭，总之，只要你爱上了一个人，真的会为他（她）流眼泪。男人也许不哭，但他们的眼泪是流在心里，同样也算是哭.

        喜欢就是喜欢，很简单，这种感情里包含的因数不多，也纯属喜欢而已；而爱就是爱，很复杂，谁也无法说清爱的定义，虽然只有那么一个字，可爱里面包含了许许多多的情感与思想，用这个爱字演绎出的故事永远也说不完。

        喜欢你却不一定爱你，爱你就一定很喜欢你！非常喜欢这句，也赞成这句，喜欢只是一种直觉，一种对对方的好感而已，有些人常常误解喜欢，认为喜欢也可以算是爱的表现，连我也经常发生这种理解的错误，呵呵，喜欢你真的不一定就是爱你，爱一个人虽然很容易，可以一见钟情，但要真正地爱一个人却需要你无怨无悔地为所爱的人付出，爱他所爱，痛他所痛，这样可能才称得上是爱吧？但爱了你就一定很喜欢你，爱是深深的喜欢，爱里包含了无数的喜欢。

说了这么多，还是只有这么一句：“喜欢是淡淡的爱，爱是深深的喜欢！”

e re Yea,already pass 22nd years old birthday.This is my 2nd celebrations. I’m so happy that my friends organize me with a special birthday celebrations.I really so glad to have u gals and this celebrations really great.Thanks for the cakes and this precious meal that u gals prepared.Muaksss!!

Though its not a big big party but its really great and happy with joy and laughters.Its a great steamboat celebrations.Haha,its fun to have the cakes cutting ceremony at ur house.Haha…make me just like a clown!!Anyway,I’m having great fun!!Lots of thanks,gals~Love ya lotz….

Today was my Birthday.I’m so happy although just 1 person had celebrate for me.Although its not a big celebration as every year before from my famiies,I’m so happy and glad that this small little celebration already satisfied me.I’m happy too that my friends call to have a celebration for me in the coming dinner.Thanks 1st lo..

What I got for my birthday?Not an expensive nor big present but its make me happy and appreciate lots about the love from it.Few birthday songs from friends really touching.Thanks guy!!

What is my birthday wish?I wish all my friends get what they want,live happily ever after and ofcouse find their love one soon so that we can have a big couple gathering that all in pairs la.Hhhmm…what else I wanna say here duh??

My cakes and flowers and my dinner set are as the below…. Great huh??   

I was so happy that Chinese New Year will be 1 week later..The most happy things to do before CNY is buying all new year stuff with families such as drinks & foods..Not only that but CNY cloths and house decorations.

Due to the CNY just around the corner,I dare to say tha all girls sure had bought their new cloths and new accesories to match their cloths and new hair-do maybe.Because of my friend’s sister in-law was an expert and hobbies in making hair-do’s,I have this opportunity to change my hair style..Within this 3 days,I’ve been perm my hair twice in different curl size..

Quite pretty though I still not use to it yet..But many ppl said  it was cute..U all can c it in my pic gallery!!

How was it?Which one do u think suits me better?

I have a friend here who encourages me to open a topic for discussion about this long-term and short-term related in making some decision. What kind of decision that we always headache of? Money, studies, families, friendship or relationship?

What I wanted to discuss about is making decision in the love relation. Firstly, what we are long-term’s and short-term’s benefits including here. For example, Ms G has a boy-friend name Mr. A and in the meanwhile she also going on with another guy name Mr. B. When a day came to Ms G that she needs to choose one between Mr. A and Mr. B, what do u all think she will be choosing? Mr. B considers the third party but he is also someone that Ms G likes. But this does not mean that Ms G do not likes Mr. A.

In the process of choosing either one, Ms G was very smart that she had been using this “long-term and short-term” terms in helping her. In the short-term, she had be with Mr. B more than Mr. A, very happy with him ever. Mr. B even did help her in financial while Mr. A doesn’t. Mr. B is working now, he have plenty of time accompany her and even can die for her. In the other hand, long-term would be consider in Mr. A that he is studying and will be graduate and brighter future. Mr. A even is her family’s favorite choice and good-looking guy. While Mr. B is a sick person who may leave her alone any time.

Can we really consider all this effect in making our decision one day? Are this fair to others? Can we estimate what really happen in the future in predict the long-term? Do leave your comment for this blog. Thank you!

Y so many sadness coming to my life one and another?I really cant survive liao la…

I got a call from my dad this evening abot my grandpa had pass away this morning…Huh~I was stunt that time until I ask twice of the news…Just to confirm and make sure what really happen and how it happen…

Though I’m so sad but when I think how my grandpa go..I feel bless..coz he gone peacefully wif lying on his bed aft cleaning himself and on his nice nice outing shirt.1 thing that I really cellude was that he looks just like sleeping as beadtime with his air-cond’s on.Wow..really rest in peace!But d most sad things is that I dun even have a pic taken wif my grandpa…..I miss u!!

Yea,I`ve been back to ipoh to attend his funeral.Somemore many things need to help out and be prepare.I`m worry about my mommy coz she is so sad and she have been helping out since d morning until now she is now staying overnite there…poor mommy!I was thinking to accompany my mommy but my dad want me to help in housework.So tml onli wake early to help there lo…

Grandpa,may god bless u and enjoy ur day at d beautiful heaven….

What am I angry about?Yea,I’m going to tell u all a bit of my story..

Yea,he was calling and sms’ing me almost every day and night.The HE I mean here was my ex.The one we have been together for 5 years.Dam..5 years!!Long period of reation huh?What u all think must be our relation is very good and he so sayang me a lot and he …. but now!!!!

I got a really surpricing that a sms saying that he already fall in love to a girl who is my nearest relatives.What the hell…Though he said he did no action because of wont end up with good result and she is my … but do u think i`ll trust what he said?Though did nothing now but do u guarantee nothing will happen later or so on?

Huh~It makes me dam crazy!The previous blog I was wrong,I said I will forgive what u did that make me sad coz i choose to be.But now,I was so angry and I wont forgive what u did now although u keep on explaing that u have ntg n no feel to others.I dun think he need to explaint so much to me as I already let him go.I`ll find my new life.Thanks for make me truely let go.I wont regret,Really!!!You make me learn a lesson that really make me grow.Thanks,I know how to protect myself now.

Sorry for expressing my anger here…but..I’m okie now because of my friends here.They advise me a lot.Thanks friends~I really appreciate what my fren did for me..Thanks~